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Vol. 72
The HlnJoong Shln~oon
July 12. 19HO
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Ali’TERMATH
·lln ,eht June Issue of the Asian Rights Advocate, a paper put
together by the Church ι。mmittee 。n Human Riqhts in Asia, they discussed the Kwangju aftermath. In the paper it says that in
K싸angju and Seoul alike, military dominance is still Quite evident. According to the paper, troops still remain in all public buildings and institutions and watch
sub“ay secnartne qnihcrt for
the faces of student leaders. like in 머。ts situations where martial law has been detnenrelpnl the streets are said to be filled
서ith barricades and ~achine gun nests and of course the Qovern-
이tne offices are 'Iell protected by ar~oured personnel. The new ed-
dUζation minister has apparently
.、arned the students not ‘to take
any Dart in street noltartsnosred and to stav out of political affai~s 。f that ζ。니t r、In the f'1eantime
a I I μ,.- seitIsrev have been closed for aO' indefinite period of time.
It is hard to eveLIeb that this 's s니DDose to ~e a denocratic
c。니;i t rν"Ian、 students and some soaillvtc ekiia are beginning t。 feel that the only hope of esta~Ijshinq carcoired in Korea is throuoh violence. As the Asian
-iqhts ~dvocate Doints out,써it h
r서e e~dless strine of broken
。ro~ises‘ lies. corruption and
another ruthless dictator, nany students see violence as the only .,1 tanret ive for the estab↑ ishment αde~ocraζν lr κ。re a‘
,I 01- rot oct sure if I aoree c。ηI=-- ; e : e↑、 .• i :" t his b e c a use I f ear
!; [?le{Ce 「(:、 ~reeds more violence.
:-e s:~de-:s and other civil ians :츠「 ‘:i- a":er a violent take over,
ξ,t -av ~e “。rth“i ,el but
:-eee 'S "-0 cuarantee that thev
11 ‘,r‘ If they lose, I fear that ert ne-rorevoc ... i11 bee。πe even
, ,、‘π"er aoc ~ore severe μit hit s
ζ↓- ’ ar:s if that is possible. I am
T.HE
C.H A··L .LE N G'E타
not suqgestlng that they sit still' a~~.le~ th~ qovernment do what they will, but I am questioning the io~g ~erm effect of violence over vlo- ~ lence.
Chun ,000-νhan, in the meant Ime has been busy using press censorshIp
skillfully. It Is hard to believe, but many Koreans living In Korea d。 not know the details of the K삐anQlu Inc i den ,t T~ey have been to I d bY-
the ne납spape~s that there 에as an uprising and it was a communist plot. Of course there is no truth
in this statement. It has als。 been found that books about.the
late dictator Park Chun!j-Hee. ere. ‘ 。penly displayed in the bookstores of Seoul. Again showing us that
the corruption which Park began,
still remains in the new gov‘rn-
men .r
Our role here in Canada and the United States is to pray for the Korean people suffering in Korea. μe can also send donations to thξ fanilies of those who have been
killed, denoslrpnri wounded or in
hiding, As pointed out in the Asian Rights Advocate, in many cases, the family breadwinner has been lost
and our financial aid is crucial. Our newspaper has been running an Emergency Fund campaign for these families. Readers may make their
donations out to The Emergency Fund, and send it to this newspaper. “e
wi 11 then forward the donat ions t。 the fami I ies in Korea.
Joy Lee
111때D=--→-←---얻III에|뻐빼IDUI톨흩Dllnn빼llUUlnlD P ARENT RESTRAINT: CASE # 1
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!- .3 '3-ociet、 。" fast changing
,scrert cnicnar 'ro,- fashions t。
! -나5,-:. ereot is an ",nderstandably i ‘2r:e π니-ber 0" oarent-teenage
l : C" " 1ζts. The oarent ;s unable
I t。 ‘긍C:J 니느 ~it~ and accept the
I "'o~은r;"1 conζstce .... '1i el the 1 i berated teenager resents and rejects the
oottctrtse-r of old-fashion‘’
:J3rental ideas. The strugole of 연~e aea;~s: the other results in
ζcnitaer the ,dellecros "generation
。ooa :Ond often enough, when the -e-be~s involved are from a diff-
근rer.t c~!ture. the gap is broad-
cere 3'1;: :~e battle intensified.
In "os: cases. the whole ;nζident 's :r,:::aered by the teen who upon
-a:니ri:v "ishes to practice greater ‘reedo- anc independence. The
。arents then react by restricting the ζ~;lc even ·urther. As a ~at:er of fact. one of the najor
:o-D'al~ts 3,-ongst teenagers today‘ IS. tnerao restraint. Once again. t~~ Situation seens worse “hen one
is ",ithin a iriworc reinorlty
f a- i I ,v
l 머'flesv a,-, a ir머ber of such a fanily and involved in conflicts. I an presently in my late teens and our fanily inniarated fro~ Korea to Canada when I was seven years old: I have 1 ived -ereb for
'roost of ny life. Vhen thinking back On ny childhood I cannot help but feel that I experienced greater restrictions than the average
chi Id. L‘as very rarely all。νed to go to the h。히es·of .y friends
and as the years Qultiplied. s。 did the rules and. regulations at hoae. Untll.finally,the "h·ole thing reached Its breaking point. 。r rather, Qlne. When younger I
‘carcely realized ~hat I "as ai‘sIng.out on quite. fe" laportant
aspe'ts of chI’‘hood. I·re.pected
.y parent,'카allltfority. 'but‘as_'1 got 。'dar th ...... actions seued.ltOre
and .ore '4iisllonable to .e until
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I could not help but object once 。r t써ice. Then the fireworks
started. the “hole matter got bl。νn right out of proportion and things went from ba、d to worse and then t。
hopeless. ‘
I guess the fight got off to a violent start because it had been suppressed for so long. It grew
inside, and “hen the chance arrived, it exploded. The conflict
actually started off just bet납een three members of the family (myself included) and the others could not
help BUT beι。me involved. ~ow, thos~ on the outside of the fami Iy are affected as well and that is
a tragedy.
Throughout the course of this
battle many issues 껴ere brought 。u t . νe argued over our failure to neet their expectatlons in
education, our plans for future
careers, our future. complaints of home conditions. friends. etc. etc. At f i r:s t , 납e were able to talk things out and come up with a compromise but this failed as the outbursts beca~e more and more fre-
quent and violent. I became s‘ick and tired of all the talking and
no act ion. They were full of elllpty promises, promisξS ‘hich were shortlived or non-existent. The condi-
t ions a t home grew worse.' I cr i ed so often and so much I hated the thought of shedding another tear.
I lived in a state of depression
and the sight and name of esroh" repulsed.~e. School beca~e an escape. although lack of concentratlon Alde.y marks drop. In
the house I ‘as constantly on edge, Jumping at a raised voice or a
slulldng door. I ,becalle so paranoid about being pressured or restrictιd that even th~ de.ands of frlenshlp
st.rted to becoae unbearable. 에V
p.rent’s con‘t.nt ~ickerlng and violent fights obsessed .e-aod the thought of .arrlage terrified .e.
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All the whi Ie they tightened thel r
, 9rip 。n us. layin9 dokh new ruIes l띠possible to keep andwe'became
the targets ·for ‘their anger and
frustration. It all became to。
much to bear. I was emotlonal1녕. physically and'men~ally tattered
and torn, I wan ted out. An‘d "out" became two things; suicide or moving
。ut‘ 1
It was my serious consideration of suicide which shook me out of the
niqhtmare._ I was horrified t。
think that I had gone so far as t。
think such a t~in9‘ I pulled mysel f together and turned to the support of friends. I knew to give up 애as to lose and I was determined to win. I must say today that
써ithout my friends I 써。uld have been a lost cause. They became
Cly outlet. I poured it all out and they listened. They made me rea-
I ize that we needed professional
he 1 p; it had enoq beyond our control. But this suggestion εarne to a dead end when my parents refused to even admit that we had a problem and we chi ldren became too frightened to seek it ourselves. So once again' turned to my friends, who.
by th~ way, had many hidden probl단IS 。f their own. But this time, they got together and helped me with
my plans to leave home.
I had no money, no knowledg~ as how to survive out there in the real 닝。rId. Things seemed hope-
less, the idea a ridiculous dream. But the more I thought about it. the more it seemed possible. It
would be at least a year or tw。
before “e could seriously consider it at all, but it would be 뷰。r hwh i 1 e.
How. with the hope of peaceful living again the fight has left me. I wish to make the remainder 。f my stay as s~ooth as possible so I avoid confl stci wherever possible and althouqh I am stil I affected by the occasional "ex-
plosions"‘ ’ am able to stay "together" most of the time.
Things have oicked up and 51。납Iv but surely ‘ a머 gettinq into the stream of things once more.
There 닝ere several factors which contributed to the battle. My oPPOSition was to the repressive and negligent manner of my parents which I felt did a lot of damage
to the family unity. We, the
children, have been robbed of the rights to a peaceful and lovin。 home. a happy childhood and a
secure future as mature and confident individUaI-s. ”any times- ie had t。 g i ve t。 one an。 the r t hesecurity. encouragenent. love and understanding we were lacking from 。ur parents. Our 0납n close rela-
ti。nship saYed US fr。m turning Int。 bitter and troubled people. However. νe have not been spared entirely for we will always carry
the scar 1eft fr。m fhe i。und 。f a broken home.
Having_had, a general illlpresslon of .y experience you may say that the whole story has been·one~slded and
perhaps it has been. 'could not say precisely what thoughts νere· 。n Ily 'stnerap ninds. I 'a.- sure
‘ that underneath a~1 this confusIon.
there was a good Illotlve for It ali:
I guess thl찌s did not go the ‘~y they had expected and caught-off ~~~rd! ~hey h~ndled It all wroog. fh‘s brings to .Ind a question i
ha.ve _‘ked .y‘elf. thous_nd tlaes 。var', .. νho I‘ right and who Is wrong?"
I ·.I01t’~ kltow Who JaM. ~hf.,\~ J’II go.iltg.
o~ what I'. do.iltg.
J don1t dwell ~n the. pd6t.
I don ’t d~ta. about the ~utu~e. J jU6t ex.i6t today.
1 have oltly one nallle, . No plae~ ‘1 eall hon-e, "
No~ a ~a • .ilY to whic.h Jtu~n. J have onlY.Y6tl~.
And the" next 6t~altge~, To Illeet and to ~"ow.
A ~~~end6h~p to g~oμ,I ~
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J.J. Hai
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Surprisingly. I am stilI able t。 see both slde5 of the case. I
k,。‘ that tIla I 'did was not right or fair and‘ I know that a II that
~y parents did was not wrong. For
Instance, my father is a ma~ whom I ~
I have al납ays admired and turned to I'" and I fully r,eal ize my debt to him I ..... for all he has done for us. I als。
kno에 that through the fightsιhe
has tried his best to be-fair and I understa~ding. He was the one 뼈。I ~s cauqht bet납een battles and hurt! the most. But no‘ even his patien- I ce has tired and he too has ~eached ! his limit. Although 꺼e are 。ppres- :
sed t。day, l *ill be ab1e t。 f。r- !
give him and love him because I !
knew him as the kind patient man :
tie was. I .cannot help wishing that: he had spent more time νith us and ; had taken a greater interest in I 。ur lives instead of locking him-
seIf akay t。 secure 。ur futures. !
There is nothing more precious to !
me than these rare happy memories ;
of the pas .t for examp ,el ’ nremer !
ber 비len I ‘as a child and became •
scared at night, my father 꺼。u I d I F。me in and cornf。rt ne. Just see- ! ing his face made me feel better. Even more ra re 납ere the times we i
joked and laughed together. The j
ruin of the family is so pathetic ‘ to me beca~se deep down inside. I
know that its destruction 냥as 6。t necessary_ W. ζould have been the perfect family.
As I go through my story. I recall ita 11 and now its e ems I ike ate rrible dream or an episode from some soap opera. It is difficult t。 believe it happened. but especially that it happened to me. and to our family. But despite all this, I cannot deny the pain I still feel and the wasted lives I see before
me; it 얘as no dream for I am 납ide
a‘ake.
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Ha‘~ing experienced 냥hat I did, I a비 suddenly aware of simil, r occurances all around me and I cannot help but feel angry and frustrAted at times. What gives parents the right to destroy the lives of their childr:en due to neglect, ignorance or whatever the excuse? Parents fail
to realize that children are people, as human as they are, if not more in an innocently sensitive way.
The child's future lies in the events of the past and present.
c。mP?re the chiId t。 a cIay figure. At first, they are both soft and
pi iable and thei r final structure is in the hands of their creators. The slightest blow or ~ark will
alter their form, their perfection. With time they set, the scratches and dents harden to become permanent scars and the only way to remove the faults is to b.rea~ them. The key to a happy child Is "tender loving care".
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Finally, I would like to congratulate all the parents of happy homes an'd children. You have~톨Y greatest respect and admiration. To the
children, I would j~st like to say that you have my envy. You never
know h。‘ much you ‘111 톨Iss soae-
thing until It Is gone. I would also lIke to add that .Ine has been an extreme case and no one Is t。
s.y that ‘h-at I choose as .' sol ut Ion· Is t~e rlg~t one for everyone. If
It Is rlght·at".ll. A‘ •• atter
。f fact, If .nyone el‘e should ever h.ve such a proble. (heaven forbid). ’ ‘。uld advise thea t。 ‘eelt· outs I de help before It I‘ too lat •• nd t。
forgive and forget a‘ 。hen as you
pon I bly' can. ‘ 에ere I s to ""OJ’E
SWEET HOI‘E'~ •
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