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This is to advise that the UNVEILING OF HEADSTONE
in loving memory of
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(DORFMAN) TOBAN
will take place Friday, Oct. 10 at 11 a.m. at the
Schara Tzedeck Cemetery
Communicating is an art
Those we love most need to hear that we are sorry.
RABBI SHLOMO RISKIN TORAH COLUMNIST
ShabbatShuvah Yom Kippur
Efrat
As we go through the 10 days of repentance, as the Sabbath of Repentance (Shabbat Shuuah) and the great fast Day of Atonement draws near, the overwhelming question each of us must answer for him/her self is: Towards which category of transgression ought we direct most of our energies of repentance? Our failings in our relationship to G-d, the probity of our business dealings or the nature of our relationships with friends and neighbors?
I believe we can take our cue from the Torah reading on Rosh Hashanah. We are ordained to read of the birth of Isaac, the tension between Hagar and Sarah, the banishment of Ishmacl and the binding of Isaac. We read of the development of a family (albeit the original family of the Israelite nation). Apparently, our sages are teaching us that G-d has given us a large world with small sub-worlds and each individual family must be seen as a world unto itself
Furthermore, according to the tradition of Beta Yisrael, Ethiopian Jewry from the tribe of Dan, Yom Kippur falls on the lOth of Tishrei because this is the precise date when Joseph met his father Jacob after an estrangement of 22 years. Father Jacob couldn't understand why Joseph
— especially once he had risen to pre-eminence as the Grand Vizier of Egypt - didn't send a message that he was alive and well to his grieving father; Joseph couldn't understand how such an intelligent patriarch could have managed the family with such ineptitude. After all, Jacob openly demonstrated so much favoritism towards the eldest son of his beloved Rachel that he sewed the seeds of jealousy and thoughts of murder in the hearts of Joseph's envious siblings. Nevertheless, father and son meet together in heartfelt rapprochement, and serve as a symbol of and model for the rapprochement between our Par-ent-in-Heaven and His children on the Day of Atonement.
Furthermore, the final blessing surrounding the recitation of the Shcma each morning -the blessing of redemption, ga'al Yisrael, just before the Amidah
- declares that G-d is "Master of your nation and the powerful King who pleads their cause." The text of the Edot Mizrah
prayer books adds the ending, "in disputes between parents and children," apparently a category of dispute that is most common and most troubling.
Finally, the Mishnah teaches us that Elijah the prophet, herald of the final redemption and hero of the Haftarah of the Sabbath of Repentance, will come "to restore the hearts of the parents to the children and the hearts of the children to the parents."
What wells up from all of this is that our most important, complex and potentially explosive relationship is the familial one and especially the relationship between parents and children. It is the relationship between husband and wife that provides the atmosphere in the home, which teaches our children what it means to work together and give to others. It is our parents whose initial and consistent love give us the confidence that comes from the belief that wc are worthy of being loved, and the ability to love others. It is our parents whose initial establishment of the limits to our actions teaches us how to live in society and provides us with the discipline and self-restraint that are necessary if we are to become responsible citizens and productive human beings. And it is the natural and built-in tension between parents and children - the need of children to individuate, the desire of parents to dominate - that trains us in the act of compromise between our desire for self-expression and our obligation to past and future. And, of course, the family is the support system — that only a strong inter-generational relationship can provide-which guarantees a bulwark of security in an ever-changing and often tragic world.
I believe that opening our Yom Kippur prayer with Kol Nidre -thereby stressing the power of words to establish reality - teaches us the importance of developing the art of communication, the necessity of expressing feelings and emotions honestly but lovingly. As does the fact that repentance for Maimonides begins with the confession of sin. It is especially those we love who must hear from us that we are sorry for deeds committed or omitted. True communication requires sensitivity, time and great emotional energy.
Shabbat shalom and chag samayach. □
Rabbi Shlomo Jliskin is chief rabbi of Efrat, Israel, and dean of Ohr Torafi institutions in Israel.
Candlellghting:
Friday, Oct. 3 6:29 p.m. Haazinu Oct. 4, 7:23 p.m.
Ahavat Olam, Box 19569, Vancouver, VST 4E7. Rabbi David Mivasair, ahavatolam@shaw.ca. 604-327-0647.6-
Aish Hatorah (Orthodox) JCC, 3636 Shelbourne St., Victoria. Min-yanim two Shabbatim a month at 9:30 a.m. 250-592-4162.
Bellingham Eytz Chalm (Conservative) 2116 Wabiut St., Bellingham. Every 2nd Sat, 9:30 a.m., alternates with Fri night tisch or Sat night Havdalah. 360-733-5961. iv
Beth Hamidrash (Scphardic Ortlwdox) 3231 Heather St. (Enter at rear of building.) Rabbi Han Acoca. Daily, 7 a.m.; minchah, 6:30 p.m.; Fri, 7:15 p.m.; Shabbat, 9 a.m.; minchah, 45 minutes before sundown; Sun, 8:30 a.m. 604-872-4222. b-
Belh Israel (Conservative) 4350 Oak St. Rabbi Charles Fcinberg, Cantor Steve Levin. Daily, 8 a.m. (public holidays, 9 a.m.) and 6 p.m.; Fri, 6 p.m.; Sat, 9:15 a.m. and 6 p.m.; Sun, 9 a.m. and 6 p.m. 604-731-4161. 6.
Belh Shalom Sanctuary (Traditional) OJCC. 108 North Glcnmore Rd., Kclowna. Shabbat service last Saturday of the month, 9:30 a.m. 250-862-2305.
Beth Tikvah (Conservative) 9711 Gcal Rd., Richmond. Rabbi Barry Leff. Fri, 8 p.m. and Sat, 9:30 a.m. 604-271-6262. 6.
The Centre for Jutlaism (Chassidic) 2351 128 St., Crescent Beach, White Rock. Rabbi Falik Schtroks. Shabbat (and holiday) morning services 10 a.m., followed by kiddush lunch. Kabbal-at Shabbat with inspirational singing, 7 p.m., the first Friday of every month. For information on the centre's Hebrew school, classes and summer camp, call 604-541-4111. 6.
Chabad-Lubavltch (Chassidic) 5750 Oak St Rabbi Yitzchalc Winebag. Daily, 7 a.m.; Sat, 10 a.m.; Sun, 9 a.m. 604-266-1313. 6-
Chabad-Rlchmond (Chassidic) 200-4775 Blundell Rd. Rabbi Yechicl Baitelman. Sat, 10 a.m.; Sun, 9:30 a.m. 604-277-6427.
Eit2 Chalm (Ortliodox) 8080 Francis Rd., Richmond. Rabbi Avraham Feigolstock. Daily, 7 a.m.; Fri, 6 p.m.; Sat, 9 a.m.; Sun, 8:30 a.m., followed by breakfast 604-275-0007. 6^
Friday, Oct. 10 6:15 p.m. Sukkot Oct. 11, 7:09p.m.
Emanu-EI (Conservative) 1461 Blan-shard, Victoria. Thur, 7 a.m.; Sat,
9 a.m. 250-382-0615. 6-
Har-EI (Conservative) 1305 Taylor Way, West Vancouver. Rabbi Shmuel Bimham. Fri, 7 p.m.; Sat,
10 a.m. 604-925-6488.6-
KolotMaylm a^c/brm; Second Fri of every month, services with student rabbi, 7:30 p.m.; Fourth Fri every month is family service, 7 p.m. Victoria JCC. 250-477-7749.
Louis Brier Home (Ortlwdox) 1055 W. 41st Ave. Fri, 4:15 p.m., officiated by S. Haber and choir -A. Selwyn, P. Pelman, M. Moses and R. Rosenberg. Sat, 9 a.m., officiated by B. Smollan, R. Rosenberg and C. Komfeld. Daily, 4:15 p.m. 604-261-9376. b-
Ohr Emet (Ortlwdox) 8500 Saunders Rd., Richmond. Daily, 6:30 a.m. and 8:15 p.m.; Fri, 6:45 p.m.; Sat and Sun, 9 a.m. 604-689-8228.
Or Shalom (Tfcwwa/; 710 E. lOdi Ave. Sat, 10 a.m.; Wed morning minyan, 8-8:30 a.m.; Kabbalat Shabbat 4th Fri monthly, 6 p.m.; www.or shalom.ca. 604-872-1614. 6^
Schara Tzedeck (Ort/iocte) 3476 Oak St Rabbi Rosenblatt, Cantor Orzech. Mon and Tliur, 7 a.m.; Tue and Wed, 7:15 a.m.; weekdays, sunset; Fri, 7:15 a.m. and sunset; Sat, 9 a.m. and half-hour before sunset; Sun, 8:30 a.m. 604-736-7607.
Sha'arel Mizrah (Traditional) Conservative-style Shabbat and holiday services in Tri-Cities area. Call for schedule. 604-552-7221. 4t
Shaarey Tedlah (Union for Traditional Judaism affiliate) 785 W. 16th Ave. Rabbi Ross Singer. Fri, 7:15 a.m. at ahul, eve. (call for time) at rabbi's home, 296 West 18th Ave.; Sat, Sun and holidays, 9 a.m. 604-873-2700. 6^
Temple Sholom (Rc/brm) 7190 Oak St. Rabbi Philip Bregman, Cantor-ial Soloist Arthur Guttman. Morning minyanim; Mon and Wed, 7:15 a.m.; Fri, 8:15 p.m.; Sat, 10 a.m. 604-266-7190. 6l
Torat Hayim Community (Traditional participatory) 483 Eastcot Rd., WestVancouvcr. Services led by Jeffrey Milton and Gabriel Milton. Services each Sat, 10:30 a.m., followed by kiddush. 604-984-4168.
White Rock/South Surrey Jewish Community Centre Monthly Friday services held in host members' homes. 7:30 p.m. Conducted by community members. #32 - 3033 King George Hwy., Surrey, B.C. 604-541-9995. 6-
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