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by HARRY GOLDEN
THE NEW ENEMY
The trouble with any war is that neither of the participants can afford to stand still. The housewife maintains her constant war against the butcher fearing that if her campaign is not stepped up from time to time there,won't be enough meats for the plates.
But the war between the tenants and the landlords has taken a turn for the worse — for the tenants. Having weathered the campaign of the housing shortage, the tenant thought he was home free. But no.
The landlord has.come up with a new weapon, the apartment house computer. According to a headquarters communique, there are 2,000 apartment house units in New York City now directly administered by an electronic computer. The computer automatically adds up rent costs and posts
the name of the family that is In arrears. It keeps track of when the apartment was last painted, the number and ferocity of tenant complaints and, given enough time, the computer will probably serve eviction notices, too.
We have learned no weapon is ever ultimate. An electronic computer cannot lie, stall or bluff. "Orre-loose screw and some tenants will have receipts for rent they never paid.
On the other hand a computer can't hear a parade of tenants much less care what kind of banners they carry. It is hard to threaten a computer with a bow and arrow, too.
My suggestion to tenants: folks, you are losing the war. You wil! have to find an underground computer shelter soon!
ALL SMGOGUK IN RUm mt ON HIGH HO^^^^^
The Canoiffan Jtfwrsh News, Fridoy, October 12/ t962 --r Pog* 5.
Dateline: NEW YORK
ly Trud© Weiss-Rosmarin
CONFLICTING LOYALTIES
S«'era! Orthodox rabbis tnd one Conservative, rabbi shared with roe their "hala-chic" misgivings about So-blen's deportation from Israel. They stressed that Jewish law affords the fugitive from justice the same protection provided by a v^Tit of "habeas corpus." However, these were off the record observations of a "pu-relv scholarly, theoretical nature." as one of the rabbis told me. and "definitely not for quotation."
This spectre of conflicting loyalties has been haunting American Jewry for many decades. One need not be a trained psychologist to reach the conclusion that the constant and vociferous denial of any clash or conflict between American interests and Jewish concerns springs from doubt and insecurity; It is clearly a cast of ''protesting too much" — in the manner of protest which aroused Shakespeare's suspicions.
A B1L\NDEIS* PRONUNCIAMENTO
Those who protest too much invariably start out by quoting from justice Louis D. Brandeis' essay "The Jewish Problem", published in 1915.
'Let no American imagine that Zionism is inconsistent with patriotism," Brandies tvrote. "Multiple loyalties are objectionable only if they are inconsistent. A man is a better citizen of the United States for being also a loyal citizen of his state, and of his city; for being loyal to his family and to his profession... There is no inconsistency betw-een lovaltv
to America and loyalty to Jewry™ Indtfed, loyalty to America demands rather that each American Jew become a Zionist."
All American Presidents and their administrations have put on record their sympathy with Zionism and, since 1948; with the State of Israel. But these tributes to Jewish ideals and pioneering were, and are, just tributes and not declarations of principles meant to guide U.S. foreign policies in the Middle East. The men in charge of the U.S. State Department are "Realpolitiker" (as "they" interpret realistic politics). They are about as sentimental, or attuned to sentiments and ideals, as an I.B.M. Machine. As a result, American Jews and the State Department have engaged in a constant tug of war* American Jews ha\e steadfastly maintained that the "Realpolitik" of the State Department, consistent and unchanging throughout the decades of changing administrations, is untrue to the American Idea. The State Department has taken this criticism and censure in its stride — together with the criticism and censure of other minority grdups — while following its accustomed, path and pursuing what it considers "Realpolitik."
A CASE HISTORY
Although there is no conflict between an American Jew's loyalty to the U.S. and loyalty to the Jewish people — as there is no clash between a man's love for his mother and his love for his
wife — in actual life situation this ''axiom of non-conflicting loyalties" is more often than not invalid. Notwithstanding the logic of Brandeis's demonstration of the non-conflicting nature of multiple loyalties, and especially of the dual ("not" divided) loyalty of Ameri«m Zionists, in real life choices which try men's souls seem to be inevitable.
.As an illustration of what a life will do to such noble principles, one might cite; the case and predicament of j Mr. Philip M. Klutznick, who now serves on the U.S. Delegation to the U.N. with thei rank of Ambassador. During his terms of office as President of B'nai B'rith, Mr. Klutznick was . to the very forefront of those who carried the American Jewish protests against the State Departriient's "Realpolitik" to Washington. Last April, however, Mr. Klutznick, as a member of the U.S. Delegation to the U..N., backed the U.N. Security Council Resolution which "condemned Israeli mihtaiy action in breach of the General Armistice Agreement whether or not undertaken by way of retaliation." Significantly, one of the strongest and most courageous condemnations of Israel's censure wasi issued by Mr, Label Katz,' Mr. Klutznick's successor in the B'nai B'rith Presidential chair.
Although Mr. Klutznick's defenders presented a good case for his submission to the discipline of the delegation over which Mr. Stevenson presides, the rank and file of American Jews feel thlat Mr. Klutznick went
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HUMAN RELATIONS
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DR. ROSE N. FRANZBLAU
QUESTION. What is your opinion of a man whose hold on his wife has been through fear? Physical and mental abuse are his weapons. In this couple's frequent arguments, if the wife answers his verbal . abuse, she is attacked physically. ; ; Incidentally, his attacks are the result^ of . many incidents which have happened and ■ which he has stored inside until his cui*-. rent outburst. Trie wife has learned not to answer him, to. keep from.being physically ■attacked. But then she iis subject to hours ■of continuous verbal abuse. After these attacks are over the husband expects his ■ se.xual life to,continue as usiiar and as if nothing had occurred. . ANSWER: The wife of the man v\iioise^': . :hold on herJs through fear probaijly wants ;to be held that way.
Actually, it is not the feair^of the iattack that keeps her obedient and siibmissive to jhirri'. It is the fear of not being attacked. ;To the wife, this rrieahs not being wanted or riot being [nipoj^ant. enough to have all of the husband's emotions center around •her. Only when the husband gets angry enough to explode does she feel Ipved . •enough by him. : ■
The wife, although acting Uk^iTinuch
■maligned and niartyred ferriale,/stays in ' : coiltrol through this kind of a set-up. She : 4-expi'e-sses her aggressivene:ss and Iher drive ;
• to be in. charge by inciting her hiiiibanid to-
j riot in her own quiet way: For bothT-the""^
• fighting followed by loving, represents a
i pattern of punishment accepted in antici- ■ .' pation of a reward to follow. ' His physical violence often makes such I* hiisband feel more nianly and it soixjfr^
times happens that only through this preliminary experience can he perform se.xu-ally as a male.In the.case of such a woman, it may mean that her inappropriate aggressiveness iriust be beaten down before she ( can. emerge and function as a female. ' . Thus, for some couples, beating or fighting represents a kind of sexual foreplay.
[t is the husband, in this case, who needs the reassurance that he is loved. Aftei- he misbehaves, hewants his wife, like the mother of a naughty child, to take him into her arms'^anU tell him that nothing can get in the w;ay of h?r love for hiray
Aithoiigh. the wife inay not have created this ; insecurity, she has evidently played into it by her qiiietriaggirig or-disapproving silence which, to him, has been much more critical than any words_eould be.
; When a criticism or an objection is
answered promptly, it has no time to stew arouiid inside the person; and can be dealt with in a quiet and inature way. This approach ought to be tried.
Discontent should be voiced promptly instead of keeping her husband in a state of agitating suspen.se caused by silence. If TTDwever, the vyife is afraid to express her feelinks or feels that she cannot do so adequately because of her insecurity or guilti then it might be well for her to talk it out' with a marriage coiihsellor.; .,.^j£dnp.it as hey problem and recognizing, her inabilityl tS handle it inight remove much of the onus for the difficulty from her husband. Then he will,be freer to act like a mature adult, who doesn't have to create scenes to be noticed, or go into a tantrum in oitler to get what he wants.
MOSCOW, (J'CNS)—Syna. gogues in Moscow w ere crowded Yom Kippur and on both day of Rosh Hashana and, according to reports, there were sizeable services
in the sjm.agogues. of Kiev, Leningrad, Odessa and other main cities.
Moscow's main synagogue, with a seating capacity of about 600. was over-filled.
Many had to stand in the passage and outside.
An eye-witness who attended the service estimated
that there were more than a thousand persons, "mostly
elderly" attending the services.
There were also crowded services at the two casual synagogues, both wooden buildiiigs, in the suburbs of the Soviet capital.
According to a statement
by Chief Rabbi, LehudaLeib Levin, there were, apart fron» the main synagogues, services in about a hiindred temporary synagogues with number of attendants estimated at well over half a million.
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