Page 12 - The Canadian Jewish News, Thui;sday, August 28; 1980
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Under Jewish law, couples getting a divorce . must also get a "get" — a religious divorce. In this article, written specially for The Canadian Jewish News,>E! Corinne Korzen, who practices law in Toronto, explains the procedure of a^et.
'* •    * -. By E. CORINNE KORZEN
Jewish law requires a religioiis divorce whenever a Jewish man ' and woman wish to sever their marital bond. Civil divorces have ho., validity under Jewish law . A marriage consecrated according to the Law of Moses and Israel is not dissoKed except according to the Law of Moses and Israel. The procedure is strictly • governed.by the halacha.
While a client may not consider himself or herself rcligioiisly inclined, or the bitterness of the moment , shuts out all thought of remarriage, in due tinie he or she may find in order to enter into a marriage again, a rabbi may not
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In 195-1, Hungary issued-a stamp honoring Armi-nius Vambery (1832-1*^13); distinguished traveler and orientalist.
What is interesting for our Judaica collection is that Vambery! although he left Judaism, was interested in and supported Zionism. He was a friend of Herzl and arranged' a meeting with . Hei:zl and Sultiri Abdul-Hamid II of the. Ottoman ernpire in' 1901.' Vambei^y was alsa corisuIted by David Wolff-sohh. Herzl-s successor and arranged further political contacts' for the early Zionists.
Vambery was boi'n in Hungaryjn. 1832 of Orthodox parents; his name was originally Hermann Vam-. bergerv He-possessed an outstanding gift for lan-. guages. and after becoming proficient in numerous European tongues, turned to those of. the Near East and became fluent in Arabic, Turkish and Persian. ■
properly officiate unless there has, in fact, been a prior religious divorce.
The prerequisites for a Jewish divorce are the consent of both parties and the husband's direct authorization for the writr ing, witnessing, signing _^and transmission of the bill of divorce to hjs wife, the Jewish divorce originates with the husband and only he can authorize a scribe to write the bill of divorce, and only be can appoint two proper witnesses to sign it.
The proceedings must be supervised by a Beth Din. a rabbinic court consisting of three rabbis competent in the laws of marriage and divorce. The entire procedure may take, up to two hours. The bulk of the time is taken ijp by the writing of the get by the scribe.
The get is written individually on behalf of the husband and wife. It contains their names, the date, and the name of the city where, it is written. The document itself mentions no grounds for divorce and no charge by either husband or wife. Under Jewish law, the desire of both" parties to dissoK e the marriage constitutes, in the final analysis, sufficient grounds.
While the proceedings are simplest when both spouses are present at the same time, should this,be difficult, it is possible to arrange for a , proxy to represent the wife. At a later date, the wife must appear briefly at which time the proxy, or an appointed messenger will place the.get into the hands of the wife.
-After the proceedings are completed, a tear is made in the divorce document to indicate it has been used and cannot be used again. The document itself is. retained by the Beth Din and kept in a permanent file. Official letters, called a., release (ptur) are given to the man and woman testifying that the get has taken place and affirhiihg their right to remarry,
Aithqiagh the man may rcmarr>' immediately, the woman must wait for 92 days. The reason for the waiting period is to ' remove all doubt as to paternity which might be raised should she mariy and conceive right away.
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Baycrest Centre staff member Brenda Skelly, with her back to the camera^ directs traffic at a Jewish Home for the Aged outing to High Park. [Place photo]
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". . . the law of divorce is given for the sake of peace . •. . And those who divorce, when they must, bring good upon themselves, not evil." (Eliyahu .Kitov). ....
TORONTO —
Thousands of feet above Toronto, the old man who had been born in Russia almost a century ago was lifted from his wheelchair. He pressed his nose against the glass of the CN Tower observation deck and said. "Now. I've seen everything!"
Memories like these will warm the lives of more residents than ever before at the Jewish Home for the Aged, one of the five organizations. of Baycrest Centre for Geriatric Care.
In the past, 15 residents per week were taken on day excursions. Most of them were ambulatory. In the last two years, because of an expanded JHA summer-outings program. 60 residents are accommodated weekly. Half of: them are in wheelchairs. Added funding approved by Baycrest Centre's board of directors made the expansion possible.
"Our.philosophy is that every single resident who wishes to go and, with help, is physically .able, goes put once a week." says Estelle Eisenberg. directoir of group services ■ at JHA.
Outings this summer began July 3 and included Sherway Gardenis. High Park, the Art Gallery of Ontario, Kew Beach. Maple Downs, the CN Tower and other local tourist attractions. Carrying out the schedule, which ends next week with a visit to Toronto city hall, demands the precision planning and organizar tion of a West Point drill team.
Two outings to the same location occur in oneweek.
About 60people. including residents, volunteers and staff, attend each outing.
Residents themselves play an important role in the planning. Twent>- of them held a meeting and decided that they especially enjoyed vlsitihg parks. In iuldltlon, residents' evaluations from previous years help staff choose sites. Baycrest staff members visit the locations ahead of time to make sure that they are wheelchair-accessible and otherwise.suitable for the seniors.
Arrangements are made well in advance with Baycresf's food serv^ices department so that the kosher picnics and teatime snacks are tailored to fit individual dietetic requirements.
A Baycrest staff member notes which of the residents take medication regularly and sees that it is brought: along with the straw hats and sandwiches on the outing.
Volunteers are aissigned, on a one-to-one basis to seniors in wheelchairs and on a one-to-one ratio with ambulatory residents. All volunteers, some of whom are ■ i-ecruited from', the . summer corps of volun-
teers, are briefed before the outing.
"This year we've been making use of relatives as volunteers. They notify us so that another volunteer won't be assigned," says Brenda Skelly. an MSW student at Sir -William Laurier University who is v%'orking at Baycrest for the summer.
"This is another reason why outings are popular. It's a chance for a resident to spend time with a family merhber doing somfething out of the ordinary. But the relatives aren't taken as guests.— they're helping with-the outing." she adds.
Before the caravan of four wheelchair-equipped vans and a big, yellow^ school bus rolls out onto Bathurst St., an attendance sheet is completed.-Floor nurses and food services staff are advised which of the residents are on an outing for the day.
Despite extensive preparation, the best laid plans can be shattered by a summer thunderstorm, "When that happens, we always have riain alternates. Sometimes,we'll go to a shopping centre," .
explains Skelly.
After so much surtimer-time fun. do residents experience a "post-picnic letdown" in the autumn? Estelle Eiisenberg answers: "Not at all. The more people go out in the summer, the more they feel like being active in the winter." she says.
Brenda Skelly sums it up: "The istimulation and" the enjoyment last after summer is over. The outings program turns summer warmth into humaii warmth, and that season never ends,"
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, The Jewish Family and Child Service >yants to help organizational program chairmen "develop programs more attuned-to: the needs_af thoise in the groups,'' says Elliott Lar-man, co-ordinator for the Jewish Family Life Education program.
This JF & CS service will start in October, said Larman, with a symposium for program chairmen who .will learn to assess the needs of their group, distinguish these need's from fads and styles, evaluate the success and failure of past programs, know where to find and buy resources, encourage participation based on the individuals skills and interests, and enhance "the cohesion commitment" within the group. ,
He said a pattern begins to take place in organizations when a person "who has a flair for program ideas becomes program chairman and will develop programs that interest him or her . . . (and eventually) becomes a catering manager trying to please the membership. Some people are good, . others fall away."
Foi; the past six years, the Jewish Family Life Education department has been going out ]to groups
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Vambery spent several years in Constantinople, became a Moslem, served in the Turkish government, and was highly regarded by the sultan.
During' this time. Vambery traveled extensively and made numerous trips to Asia Minor disguised as a Moslem dervish. His publications included a Turkish-German dictionary (1858) and "Travels and Adventures in Central Asia" (1864). (This latter work created muehiinter-estin Europe, jjarticularly in England.
In 1864, Vambery who had now become a Protestant .returned to Hungary to accept the post of professor of oriental Ian-' guages at the University of Budapest, which he held until 1905. During this time he published numerous works including his autobiography (1883) "and "The Story of My Struggles" (1905).
■■. Vambery was a strong supporter of Britain's.foreign policy and served for a time as an advisor to the foreign ,office on Irfdiarr-and Asiafic affairs.
It is interesting to note ^hat the portrait of Vambery appearing in the Encyclopaedia Judaica is by courtesy of the Central-Zionist Archives, Jeru-saleni-
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